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As opposed to many other places in the world, here in the US, it is customary to give a gratuity to food servers. The main reason for this is that restaurants are allowed by law to pay a lower wage to servers due to the fact that they supplement their wages with tips. A main argument for this is that if servers were actually paid a living wage, the cost of eating at restaurants would rise (which is a good scare tactic here in the States, because people worry more about having to pay more for anything than see someone be able to pay their rent).
Here's where this really gets controversial. I do tip, but I tip based on the performance of the server. I generally tip the customary 10-15%, depending upon how much extra money I have available at the time, and how good the service is. But I have left a restaurant without leaving any gratuity, but only in times where I felt the service was terrible. Did I feel guilty, sure, but if you want a gratuity, you have to earn it.
Sounds harsh, right? Like, I'm some sort of monster who would keep money away from someone who really needs it. Well, here's the thing. I used to wait tables. And I was a damned good waiter. Attentive, pleasant, and timely with food and drink. And yet, I usually got tipped less than the waitresses, and sometimes, not at all. And at the end of a workday, I had to report how much I got in tips so the company could subtract that from my wages (which is why I eventually transferred to the kitchen where I could get my whole paycheck). So I know what it's like to get stiffed on a tip, but I also know, you have to bust your ass to get that tip. You want it? Make sure I'm happy with my service. I've had a lot of people tell me I'm wrong in my actions, but it's how I was raised.
So what's your thought? Do you tip, no matter what (if you're in a part of the world where tipping isn't done, tell me what you think of the practice)? And is it wrong to not leave a tip if the server doesn't deserve it?
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